A good relationship requires mystery

The very sense of exploration of each other binds people together and may be that is why the essence of any relationship fades away within a short span of time as there is no mystery involved any further. But then does that mean a relationship to last forever should involve a game of hide and seek to be played by the two in a relationship for-ever.

Well, i have some interesting philosophies in answering that, though they are somewhat subjective. According to me there are two types of people...those who believe in short term relationships and the others who believe in long term ones.

People in short term relationships get over one and enter into another, in search of the mystery lost in the previous one. At the end of it all they have lot of stories to tell their grandchildren. On the other hand, the ones in long term relations, make compromise and lot of compromises with everything around them even with their soul it seems. They get committed and live under the pretense of happiness...But now let me talk about things based on facts and stats...and it goes:

People in relationships are generally happier than other people, a new Cornell University study finds. And spouses have the highest sense of well-being, whether they are happily married or not.Interestingly, even those in relatively unhappy marriages appear to benefit from being married, Kamp Dush said, perhaps because they benefit from marriage's stability, commitment and social status....sounds weirdo ain't it???

I believe men and women can only enjoy a monogamous relationship if both work at it daily. When both do their part, relationships would be heaven on earth. It is a partnership of the most intimate kind and requires daily maintenance and a copious amount of patience.

LOVE....is not blind but people in love are

This reminds me of the EVE's song.

"Love is blind, and it will take over your mind What you think is love, is truly not You need to elevate and find"
But, Is love really blind?
No, it isn't ...infact it sees more, not less...but because it sees more, it is willing to see less...sounds complicated isn't it? Geeks like us would call it a "race condition".

Others will say, “Love is selfless.” I say, if you do not love yourself, how can you love others? Love is the self. Love merely makes the self bigger than one person.

Still others will say, “Love is never angry. Love remembers no wrongs.” I say, love is often angry, but never cruel. Love is not blind. Love seeks all, finds all, and knows all, and love never forgets. Love strives to make things better. Love embraces all. How can love embrace a thing wholly if it is blind to its faults?

love is not blind but blindfolded...One is able to see...but doesn't want to see....When you love you must not expect anything in return If you do, you’re not loving but investing. If you love you must prepare to accept pain. For if you only accept for happiness, you’re not loving but using.So, as you see even love has rules to be followed up upon....

There are things we never want to let go …. We never want people to leave us, but keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world, but its just the beginning of new life. The brightest future will always base on a forgotten past and failures and heartaches. To let go is not to deny but accept, to let go is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the future and to let go is not to fear but to love.

Having said and done, i still believe that being in a relationship is something everyone should go through. It teaches you things that you wouldn't have otherwise known.

Love is an effervescent feeling

I recently went to a fine restaurant. It was enchanting to see fine dressed men and women, engaged in their own spaces. Mostly all were young. I could see girls giggling. I saw men bragging to their loved ones. I saw couples eating anonymous dishes. I saw men trying to pay bills. I saw that lustrous wait in most of them. I was about to turn around when I saw this couple, and my eyes just seem to stick to their dispositions. My mind stopped working and my heart yelled aloud, "Yes, this is what it should be like!" I saw an old couple, just watching each other- holding each other's hand below the table top. Saying nothing-not even whispers. Not moving. Just looking at each other-as if meditating and I thought meditation is divine. There was a faint expresion of a pure smile. They seem to be lost-in each other; they were just breathing in this world. I saw a little somebody approach them and ask, "Granda Pa, what were you doing in the mean time?" "Nothing my angel, I and your grand mother were having a long chat." Yes, indeed, amidst this artificial Hosh Posh, they were speaking to each other neither through words, nor through whispers but through the words of Silence! I dont know whether we can learn this language may be it can never be learnt; may be we happen to know it and didn't knew about it, and realise it when we suddenly start speaking through our eyes.
With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there are some that come along that have an important message, and this is one of those kinds.I just had to share it with you. " The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything that comes along their way. " Peace is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank............